Parents who have children with life challenges may
think they are doing the right thing for them by sheltering them away from too
much responsibility. Maybe they believe their child can't handle the
outside world. I believe the parents of a child with additional challenges need
to allow their child the opportunity to experience their own life, whenever
possible.
I have not been on the parent’s side of the
equation but I think we are fortunate to be living in a country where there are
supports available for persons with life challenges. It is not perfect, I
know, but we are lucky for sure. If we are able, we all need to go out and have
a life for ourselves. We all need to learn what it is to have freedom, and to
have fun. We cannot live our lives through someone else.
Some parents may feel that no one can look after
their child better than they can. I think some risks are worth taking though
because, otherwise, the person may feel less challenged and fulfilled.
Being less dependent on my parents helped me to feel more independent as
a person. I am grateful that they did the right thing by letting me be as
independent as possible when I was a young woman. They supported my choice to
move out and have my own life. My parents will be here for me as long as
they are able but I now have my own life and I am free to go out in the world
without my family. It is the right thing for me.
On the other hand, if parents do not want their
child to move out on their own, that’s fine because they can live at home.
However, it will be very difficult for a person with a life challenge to be
independent if they always rely on their parents. The bottom line is that we
need freedom to explore life, and freedom to make choices about how we spend
our own time.
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