I was born July 7, 1981... I was called a
preemie because I was so small that I could be held in the palm of a hand,
except I could not be out of my incubator or away from the many tubes. My parents already had one daughter who was
two and a half years old, and now they had twins. Although we had grown together for the first
part of our lives and were separated by merely sixty seconds entering the
world, I was about to experience a vast separation in time and space when the
hospital staff whisked me away from my family and flew me to Edmonton where the
hospital had a better facility to help me.
I was so small and fragile that my
mother wasn't able to see me before I was relocated. My parents weren't able to come with me; they
had to stay home with my two sisters in Grande Prairie (a five and a half hour
drive from Edmonton). They wanted to
visit but my dad was a police officer who worked night shifts and my mom had two
little girls to look after. They were
far away but were sending me angels in their thoughts each day. I know it must have been a big challenge for
my parents to trust that I was going to be okay and leave my care in someone
else's hands. Instead, they sent a
family friend to come and hold my small body for moments of comfort. A friend forever, she is also my older
sister's godmother. She wrote me this
letter that I hold dear.
Dear Shawna,
This is what I remember of my
first visit with you.
Your dad called me in Edmonton I
was in at my parent's home in my third year of university in the Faculty of
Education to become a teacher. It was very early in the morning, well before 5
a.m.
Your dad said that you and your
twin were born! He was thrilled and
terrified because you were so very small. The University Hospital would provide you with
the safest and best medical care possible.
He asked me to go and see you because
he and your Mom and of course, your sisters were so far away. Naturally, I agreed without a second thought. I was so honored to be asked to visit such a
precious delivery to this world.
You were in the Neonatal Intensive
Care Unit. I was not one for hospitals
because I truly dislike BLOOD, PAIN, and GORE (SLIME). I went to the hospital because your parents
were so very important to me. They are
my second family.
In the hospital, the Head Nurse
refused to allow me to see you. I was
devastated and convinced that I wouldn't leave the Hospital without seeing you.
I put up a HUGE stink, and finally
after your parents phoned and granted authorization I was allowed into the
Unit.
I had to buzz into the Unit. Next, I was expected to scrub raw my hands,
put on gloves and a yellow robe over my clothes. I looked very trendy, as it
was summer. When I first saw you, I was
speechless. I was twenty and a half and
you were the first baby I had ever seen in my life. You had tubes for feeding and such precious
hands.
The nurse told me to pick you up. I almost fell over. I was terrified of dropping you, squishing
you, hurting you.
So, the first visit I just sang to
you. This is important because I NEVER,
EVER sing in public. “Is this friendship
or what?” I noticed your incubator crib did not have
anything PINK. What an emergency! I left the hospital to search for something to
leave in your incubator that would be special.
I discovered a soft pink blanket and brought it to you.
On my next visit, I held you while
sitting in a rocking chair. I sang
again, and gave you a full report of your family in Grande Prairie. You fell asleep. It was a beautiful sight. Every night, your
parents would phone for a report. Every
day between classes, I would march into the hospital to visit.
There were a few other infants in
the Unit. Often, I would see the Moms
cry. It made me very sad to see so many
people trying so hard to do what ever they could to comfort these people.
On one visit, a dad asked me how
my little girl was doing. I just looked
at him and said, "Actually, very well. I'm the Aunt and I'm the only one
who is here to hold her. Aren't I the
lucky one?"
I felt very young to be there with
you. My time with you stood still.
While you were growing, I was
allowed to feed you with a dropper into a tube, only a little at a time. It took forever. I wondered when you'd eat REAL food. You fit in the palm of my hand. How amazing!
When you were finally allowed to leave the hospital, I was happy to know that you would be in the surroundings of your loving family. At the same time, I was sad because for just a few days of your life, I had you all to myself.
When you were finally allowed to leave the hospital, I was happy to know that you would be in the surroundings of your loving family. At the same time, I was sad because for just a few days of your life, I had you all to myself.
Thank you! Love always!
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